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Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize the emotions of yourself
and others around you, manage for potential affects of your emotions on others,
and consider all of the emotions in relations and in decision making and problem
solving. Emotional intelligence is a critical ingredient in self-leadership
and in leadership of others and it requires one to be self-aware and have strong
empathy for others.
- There are different definitions for emotional intelligence (EI), but it
is probably fair to generalize that it is the ability to recognize our emotions
and then manage our responses to those emotions in a manner that enhances
our health and relationships with others. There are some basic guidelines
that might be useful in enhancing your own EI. Consider the following basic
- Notice how you are feeling and be able to name the emotion, for example,
mad, glad, sad or bad. Be careful not to get confused between your thoughts
and feelings. Notice the difference between and then use “I feel …”
and “I think …” statements.
- Notice how you judge those emotions, for example, you might believe that
“it is scary and bad to feel angry.”
- Notice what situations typically evoke those emotions in you.
- Notice the difference between your emotions and your outward responses
to those emotions – what others would see you do and say. Ask yourself
how you choose to feel about something and whether your behavior is aligned
with that choice.
- Realize that it is OK to have strong emotional reactions. It is what you
do with those emotions that can be a problem for you and others.
- Notice how long you retain those emotions. What changes them?
- Notice what makes you happy and plan for those situations on a regular
- Notice how you make conclusions about other peoples’ feelings. What
are they doing or saying?
Take this online test to get an impression of how well-developed your emotional
intelligence is now.
So what do you want to improve? Consider the many guidelines in the following
Various Perspectives on Emotional Intelligence
Life Lessons: Emails and Emotional Intelligence
The Value of Emotional Intelligence
50 tips for improving your emotional intelligence
on the Emotional Intelligence and the Internet
Deepening Our Discipline
Enough to Confront
and Inspiring Yourself
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